ENM Dating Profile Pitfall #1: Clichés

“I’m just a regular guy.”

“I love to laugh.”

“I can’t believe I’m on a dating app.”

“My kids are my number one priority.”

“I don’t know how to describe myself.”

I could go on. I see these sentiments on dating profiles all the time, and at this point they make me eyeroll exhaustedly.

To be clear: It’s not a problem if any of these things are true. I genuinely hope you do not hate laughing, and god help your family if your D&D campaign is more important than your children.

The problem is that these statements are, at best, terribly unoriginal and don’t really tell me anything about who you are. At worst, they speak to a level of un-self-awareness that many women are turned off by. In particular, if a nonmonogamous man doesn’t know how to describe himself on a dating app, there’s a chance that he is totally not attuned to who he is as a person. Or maybe he knows who he is, and who he is is boring.

If your struggle is that you’re actually boring … just kidding, no one is boring. If you don’t believe me, let’s talk! I want to help you share your fascinating self with the dating world.

If your struggle is that you just don’t know how to describe yourself, ask those close to you. Your partner(s), your parents, your siblings, your closest friends. Some themes should emerge that will help you describe yourself in a compelling way. If they don’t, my profile overhaul service can help. Sometimes fresh eyes are better than familiar ones! I’ll talk to you for an hour to get to know you, and help you decide what to highlight about yourself and how to phrase it in a way that’s compelling.